Internet Safety in teenage

Teaching Adolescent Internet Safety- This is a really good article about how to keep kids safe while they are on the internet and just in life period.

Internet Safety


The Internet is both a blessing and a curse. It brings so much of the world immediately to your fingertips. But unfortunately it brings both the best and the worst the world has to offer. This is especially true for today’s adolescent. Internet safety is something every parent should teach to their teens.

1. Teach teens about the permanence of what they share.
When 18-year-old Jesse Logan sent a nude picture to her boyfriend, she had no idea he would show the pictures to others after they broke up. As a result, Jesse was the target of vicious comments at school, and the harassment never stopped. So troubled by the abuse, she eventually took her own life. Other women have had similar humiliating experiences.

According to a survey by MTV and the Associated Press, 18% of those who receive a sext from someone else end up sharing it with others.

Once something is shared online—an embarrassing photo, a hurtful word, and rash statement—it is sometimes impossible to get rid of. As many as 42% of teen girls are concerned they won’t get accepted into the college of their choice or they will miss a job opportunity or they will get in trouble with parents or teachers, all because of the things they’ve said and shown online.

2. Teach teens how to react to slander.
Johnny Cagno was an eighth grader whose bullying problems gave Birchwood Middle School a wake-up call. The bullying, online and offline, became so bad, he eventually attempted suicide. Later, CBS filmed Johnny for 48 Hours special called “Bul•ly•ing: Words Can Kill,” to tackle the subject of bullying.

One in five teens says “people are mostly unkind” on online social networks, and a third of teens say they personally have been targets of annoying or menacing online activities.

Teens need to be taught about how to react to bullying, both done to them and done to others. In many instance, simply ignoring bullying behavior is best. Bullies often only want to get a rise out of someone, so teens shouldn’t give them the satisfaction. If the bullying is persistent, teens should save any evidence of it, and when necessary, involve the proper authorities.

Nearly nine in ten teens who use social media say they have seen someone being mean or cruel to another person on a social network site. Teens should be taught about the importance of standing up for others, to never be just an innocent bystander.

3. Teach teens about the allure of porn culture.
Despite the Internet filter on her computer, Natalie Ornorf stumbled across erotic literature on the online. What she thought would be just a one time thing turned into a habit. Then it progressed to pornographic videos. Mere months after her first exposure, unbeknownst to her parents, she was watching and reading porn for hours every night. Slowly it was starting to warp her mind.

Pornography and porn culture is everywhere. Today, more than half of guys and a third of girls see porn before they even turn 13. Porn stars are becoming the new crossover artists, regularly turning up on shopping-mall movie screens and prime-time TV. Additionally, pop culture now mimics pornography. One only needs to watch music videos of performers at the top of the charts or see the latest cover of Maxim to find evidence of this.

John Carr of the Children’s Charities’ Coalition on Internet Safety says many adults are now talking about how much pornography has a grip on their minds and effects their relationships. “If adults are having problems coping with this new mass availability of these types of images, then it’s not unreasonable to deduce that children, who are exposed to exactly the same images, in exactly the same way, must be getting into all kinds of difficulties.”

Parents need to have honest discussions with their teens about not only why porn is damaging, but why it is an imitation of something that is very good. Teens need to be shown the contrast: porn bonds you to fantasy images that leave you empty, but sex in marriage connects you to a person in an intimate way.

To help parents with this discussion, Covenant Eyes has released a new downloadable guide: When Your Child is Looking at Porn: A Step-By-Step Guide for Christian Parents.

4. Create a culture of accountability in the home.
When Richard and Leila Hoffman found out one of their teenagers was looking at porn on the home computer, they spoke to their son-in-law who worked as a computer programmer. He recommended they try using Covenant Eyes Internet Accountability to monitor the computer.

Richard and Leila decided not to simply monitor their children—they monitored everyone, including themselves. They used Covenant Eyes as a teaching opportunity about the importance of lifelong accountability. In this way their teens did not feel targeted but part of something the whole family was doing.

5. Empower them to be their own watchdogs.
When Jacqueline Anderson was a teenager, her dad installed Internet Accountability on computers at home. She loved the freedom it gave her. No more annoying Internet filters that smothered her or required her parents to always plug in a password so she could do the simplest task. “This program allowed me as a young adult to make my own decisions about what I allowed into my mind through my eyes, while ensuring I had accountability,” she writes. “This empowered me to make my own wise decisions.”

Steve Siler has noticed the same thing with his son. At first, his son wasn’t so sure about being monitored all the time online, but over time he started to become more proactive about the “gray areas” online. His son now comes to him to tell him about the choices he’s MAKING ONLINE to avoid sexually explicit material. “I’m glad for the open dialogue [Covenant Eyes] has created for me and my son. I’m also glad it has helped him to be come his own watchdog.”

You think to start a blog? “Great! Absolutely!”

What are the key ingredients for a successful blog?

Be Clever. Think of a really good name that says best what the blog is about. It is not easy because most probably it will not be available, so you have to be clever.

Be Smart. Consider securing a trademark for your blog name as you build your brand. Do the research up front to avoid that awkward situation. You can trademark your brand after you advice with some legal office.

Be Unique. Don’t be shy. Write like you think and like you speak, because no one else can do it in that way. Write about what you know. Personal experiences are unique so start there. Even if it’s blogging officejust a few tips and you’re not an expert, a little experience is valuable information, so share it.

If you’re a niche blogger (photography, fashion, design, food, etc.) stay mostly on topic, but don’t be afraid to mix it up with snippets of your life, something random, or a self deprecating moment, readers love when you share the personal side, we’re all human!

Be Patient. Producing good content that is unique and useful is the most valuable thing you can contribute. Be prepared to write that good content for six months and go completely unnoticed. But this is not bad since you can use this time for practicing and finalize your writing and posting schedule.  Once you’re discovered, you’ll provide readers with a lot of good content to share, and they will share it, if it is unique and inspiring, so keep your focus there.

Be Visual. Good writing is great, but pretty pictures are killer. Having shareable images is one of the best tools for getting your content out in the world and pretty pictures always always help! Want to take better pictures? You can learned how by contacting UnitrustMedia for their upcoming training.

Be Clean & Organized. My favorite minimal whitish style is really relaxing. Your blog design should not be too busy or distract from your content. White space is calming and gives the eye a place to rest with all the commotion going on with content or ads. Consider a white backdrop or subtle wallpaper, nothing glaring or flashy or too bright. Your blog layout is a reflection of your style – clean and simple always trumps busy or cluttered. Make sure you have an About page with a picture and a 2 to 3 paragraph narrative, we want to know who you are, your interests, why you’re blogging! Absolutely have a Contact page for readers to connect and for future opportunities!


Be Nice. Blogging is not high school; there is zero tolerance for meanness. It’s best to treat others with kindness and respect in your comments and your writing. Encouragement not criticism has always been my motto, be gracious and give people the benefit of the doubt before judging. Unless judging is the main theme of your blog, then by all means, do your thing but expect opinions to fly!

Be Social. Make friends in your niche by socializing through comments or joining link parties or tweeting or commenting on Facebook. Most of my blog friendships were initiated through comments online but solidified when we actually met at a conference, so once you’ve been blogging a few months, consider attending one, they’re a wealth of information, inspiration, and it’s great to match faces to blogs.

Be Professional. In the online world, you can get noticed pretty quickly if you do something unique and it gets circulated in social media, so if you do get that email from a magazine editor or publisher, be quick to respond and do so with courtesy and professionalism. They are always looking for high resolution quality images so considering taking photographs with that in the back of your mind!

Be Passionate. So cliché, but so true. Don’t blog to get rich or make money, blog because of your desire to share your skills, thoughts, passions, quirks, and your unique take on the world. There’s plenty of room for blog success, just be sure you stay true to who you are, or really, what’s the point? 🙂

Whether you start on Blogger or WordPress is completely up to you. Be sure to install a Stat-counter, or Google Analytics in the beginning, it’s the best way to track where your traffic comes from and those stats will come in handy in the future when you seek sponsors, advertisers, and the like.

Got questions? Contact me to continue the discussion.